Must Be Nice.

THIS IS A RANT.

Can’t say I didn’t warn you.  Want to know what grinds my gears?  The saying, “must be nice”.  Want to know why?  Because people VERY often say it to me in the following context:

• “Must be nice to have such an easy life”
• “Must be nice to be so skinny”
• “Must be nice to have a good job”
• “Must be nice to be so happy”

Sigh.  I wish I could tell you my life has been nothing but butterflies and rainbows.  I wish I could tell you that I have never struggled with my own body image or weight.  I wish I could tell you I have never in my life been depressed.  I wish I could tell you I have the perfect relationship.  But if I did, I would be lying.  It is so easy to look at others and assume what their life is like or has been like.  I have been down many dark holes  in my short time on this earth,  that at the time I did not think light was ever going to be possible again. Just because someone appears put together on the outside, does not mean they are not falling apart on the inside.  I realized something a long time ago, I have control of my attitude, my happiness and my overall quality of life.

My life is good because I make it good.  I choose happiness, I choose health and I choose to always have a positive outlook.  To always search for the blessings in the mess.  My life is this way because I manifest it to be so.  Even on my worst days, I know I have ultimate control on how I react to every situation.

In regard to my health and my body: I work my A$% off to stay in shape.  I work very hard to put only healthy things into my body.  I am not perfect and I am very hard on myself.  Anyone that has seen me eat numerous brownies in one sitting knows that.  But I work really hard.  These things do not come easy to me, so please do not assume I am a superhuman.  I am just like you.  I have my own struggles and you very well may never know what those are or what they have been, you don’t have to know.  I just ask one thing of you, don’t assume others have easier than you.  Stop looking outward and look inward. Take ownership of your own life, nobody else can change it for you.  Only you have that power.

Stay BLESSED in the mess 🙂